June 14, 2003
Alcoholic parents. A drug-addicted daughter. Divorce. And now, her
daughter's death from cancer.
The trials in Carol
Burnett's life are definitely not the stuff of comedy. Nonetheless,
Burnett's humor-driven resilience has carried her through a spectacular
career as one of America's most beloved comic actresses.
Burnett established herself
as the queen of television comedy during the 1970s, leading a hilarious
ensemble cast in The Carol Burnett Show, a variety show that ran
for 11 years on CBS. During that run, Burnett and cast regulars Vicki
Lawrence, Harvey Korman and Tim Conway put together a sketch comedy show
that garnered a phenomenal 22 Emmy Awards.
Each show ended, with
Burnett's closing song and her trademark goodnight a gentle tug on
her ear. Burnett says she began that signature signoff at the start of
her television career as a secret way to say "Hello, I love
you" to her grandmother, Nanny, who raised her.
It's been a generation
since Burnett's variety show went off the air in 1979, but the success
of her recent television special which drew a phenomenal audience of
30 million showed just how much America still loves Burnett's
classic sketch characters, sight gags, and endearing, innocent
silliness.
A
Daughter's Struggle
Burnett recalls the years
on the set of her weekly show in the 1970s as a wonderful time. Her
three daughters Carrie, Jody and Erin Hamilton practically grew
up on the set, she says. But while Burnett was having a blast with
Conway, Korman and Carr on the set, she was grappling with some serious
personal problems at home. Her marriage to producer Joe Hamilton was in
trouble, and the couple ended up divorcing in 1984. And Carrie, her
eldest daughter, had become heavily addicted to drugs and alcohol when
she was just 13 years old.
When she became aware of
Carrie's addiction, Burnett blamed herself. "I thought
was
there something I should have seen, something I should have known,
something I would have spotted? You know, what did I miss? Was I not
strong enough?"
Carrie's battle with
addiction was a four-year struggle. With Burnett's help, she ultimately
won that battle. One of Burnett's closest friends, opera singer Beverly
Sills, remembers Carrie as a sweet girl who went through a tough,
rebellious adolescence and felt that her mother's stardom was a burden.
Sills recalls Carrie telling her, "It's not easy being Carol
Burnett's daughter."
As Burnett helped Carrie
battle, and ultimately triumph, over addiction, the two became closer
than ever.
Mother-Daughter
Collaboration
Like Burnett, Carrie grew
up to be an actress. While Burnett performed Stephen Sondheim music on
Broadway; Carrie performed in the rock opera Rent. While Burnett
played Helen Hunt's high-strung mom on Mad About You; Carrie
portrayed a struggling young performer on Fame.
Their artistic paths
diverged until Carrie suggested they collaborate on a very special
project. She proposed writing a fictionalized play based on her mother's
1986 autobiography, One More Time.
With Carrie's rebellious
teenage years and her painful addictions behind them, Burnett had
developed a new respect for Carrie as a writer. Finally, they were
working as equals on a project close to their hearts.
Burnett's story is a
classic rags-to-riches tale. Her difficult childhood was marked by
alcoholic parents, their divorce when she was 4 years old, her
upbringing in a rundown, one-room apartment with Nanny, and the fantasy
life she created for herself on the rooftop of her apartment building.
Burnett said she wrote her
story because she wanted her children to understand the circumstances of
her childhood. Carrie found her mother's story so moving that she wanted
to take the story to the stage. So she wrote the play Hollywood Arms,
currently being performed at Chicago's Goodman Theater, to tell her
mom's story.
As bittersweet as the story
is, the play also captures the humor that always loomed large in
Burnett's life. Burnett admits that a lot of her childhood "sounds
awful," but says: "There was a lot of humor. My mother was
very witty and beautiful, and, uh, Nanny was funny as hell."
The
Next Battle Cancer
In August 2001, Carrie, a
longtime smoker, was diagnosed with lung cancer. Initially, Carrie had
checked in and out of Cedars-Sinai hospital in Los Angeles as she
underwent chemotherapy and radiation, keeping her sense of humor even as
she lost her hair. There seemed to be glimpses of hope that the cancer
was receding, and that perhaps Carrie had triumphed over cancer the way
she had beaten drugs and alcohol.
And Burnett decided to get
married again. After 20 years of being single, she married musician
Brian Miller. As Burnett was enjoying the new comfort and stability of
married life, casting was getting under way for Hollywood Arms, a
project Burnett and Carrie hoped would be just the start of a
long-running mother-daughter collaboration.
But then came the news that
changed Burnett's life. In November 2001, Carrie learned that her lung
cancer had spread to her brain.
Like her mom, Carrie relied
on humor to help her through her battle. "Carrie had a spirit about
her, all through her treatments," Burnett says. When Carrie had a
relapse and went back into the hospital, she told her mom she
"missed the food."
"We both started to
howl," Burnett says.
In her final weeks of life,
Carrie helped her mother in casting decisions for the play. And in her
last days, Carrie and her mom had a chance to talk again about their
rough years, and Carrie actually apologized to her mom for smoking.
Carrie Hamilton died on
Jan. 20 of this year. She was 38 years old. Hollywood Arms opened
to positive reviews in Chicago three months later.
Hal Prince, who is
directing Hollywood Arms, said: "The show is about love. It
is not a dysfunctional family show. It's about somebody who came out of
all that turmoil a difficult childhood and emerged
triumphantly."
Unbroken
Bond
Burnett says she feels that
Carrie is right there with her at the Goodman Theater. After Carrie's
death, when she was preparing for rehearsals in March, Burnett asked her
daughter to give her a sign that she was with her. She said Carrie gave
her that sign loud and clear.
Burnett says when she and
her husband checked into their Chicago hotel, they saw a huge floral
arrangement of Birds of Paradise in the lobby. "That was Carrie's
favorite flower," Burnett says.
The next night a waiter
offered Burnett and her party a bottle of champagne. Burnett says,
"He showed the label and the label said 'Louise.' Now, that's
Carrie's middle name, it was the name of my mother. And I thought,
'Carrie, you're not subtle at all.'"
Losing Carrie has been a
devastating blow to Burnett, but she seems comforted by their
collaboration on Hollywood Arms. "It was her legacy. Or one
of them. And it's all her doing."
Does Burnett still say
goodnight to her audiences with a tug on her ear? Yes. But now, she
says, she's doing it for Nanny and for Carrie.